Hello KTT fam,

The thought been crossing my mind lately, but considering how expensive and difficult life has gotten in the US gives me some concerns.

I’m wondering if I can still have a stable and happy life for myself while raising kids. I’m also wondering how having kids changes relationships and what sacrifices need to be made to successfully raise kids today.

Anyone have any thoughts or advice? Assuming middle of the road income, no debt at this time.

Not yet, but my fiancé and I plan on trying after marriage. Obviously a lot of scary factors but I feel like almost every generation can say that. Best thing you can do is be as intentional and proactive as possible with setting up the best possible life for them

In this economy?

If they really wanted me to breed more little taxpayers they wouldn't be sucking me dry

Quit fronting u make 220k a year and live in a NYC skyrise condo

I admire every single parent on this Earth. That takes a lot of mental strength to be a good parent, not to mention the financial aspect. Looking at you @Gosh

There’s never going to be a “right” time. Or a right moment. Ever. That being said, if you’re on the fence about the idea of parenthood, just don’t do it. Having a kid just for the sake of it would be one of the worst decisions, if not the worst, you can make in your life.

That being said, being a father is the best thing that’s ever happened to me. I can only speak for me, but my son has given me the strength to understand that I’m here for a reason, and I have a purpose.

My younger self probably never thought I would be a father currently, but it gives you an entirely new perspective on life, and the little things. It’s not easy, by any means. “Parenting” and “easy” do not belong in the same stratosphere. And it’s not a cure for growing into being a great person or great father. But I can’t explain how seismic of a mental shift I had when I held him for the first time, and it’s a fulfilling feeling seeing him grow up.

But that’s not even taking into account your partner, living situation, location, occupation, finances, time, etc. So yeah lol

All that just so they get groomed on roblox to slit my throat while I’m sleeping because I’m a communist?

Shoutout to all parents, I’ll circle back with some real advice later but just find the right partner and pass down tradition, value academics and intellectualism, keep them off social media and build build build

Don’t be afraid of mistakes, make them as a family, solve them as a family

Understand your values, your partners values, and pass them down

Don’t be afraid to tell your child idk, show them how to research, take responsibility, be skeptical, ask questions, be gentle, but firm

Being a father has been one of the most beautiful experiences of my life, and a lot of that is because I found such an amazing partner

do it and forget about all of your favourite interests and hobbies, its their time now

find the right partner

Yeah if that was the case we’d have no f***ing kids out here. Work with what you got unless she’s an addict is my advice

I get it and I’m grateful

Yeah, a girl about to turn 5 and one on the way,
She’s my little homie and cracks me up.
The right job helps, my wife is able to stay home with her which helps a lot.

Why would you f*** kids you f***ing sicko?

MJ said it, not me

Also “it takes a village” is as real as it gets

obligatory @KingOfPop

I need a woman first

Can I ask how old you are? My lady and I are just turning 30 together. We both agree best case scenario we’d have kids by 35.

2 separate women aborted my kids, despite me saying i'd raise them

great for my confidence

I’m 32 she’s about to turn 30. She obviously wants to do it sooner than later but we’re taking our time

thank f*** i dont

As both a teacher and a parent, I’ve seen both sides of it. I’ll put it like this please please please use protection (if you don’t 100% want one right now) lol. Because the reality is too many parents have kids willy-nilly without truly being serious about becoming a parent and understanding the responsibility it takes and/or not having a good relationship with the person they want to have kids with and it is one of the reasons our society is so f***ed today.

I’m very lucky that I have a great relationship with my wife and we communicate well but this first year of having a kid has still been extremely difficult on both of us. I have no idea how someone could have a kid in their early 20s. You have to be ready to give up a life that is mainly focused on yourself and be ready to have a life that is now focused on the new human you have created. It’s a beautiful thing and has brought me so much joy already but I also understand that having a kid isn’t for everyone. I actually had thought for a while that I didn’t want to have a kid and came to the realization that just because society shoves the idea of being a parent down your throat. It doesn’t mean you need to.

Ultimately I decided I wanted to have a kid because the last few years of my 20s were kind of rinse and repeat and I found that even after attaining a lot of the material things I wanted in this world I still wanted a greater sense of purpose and I do believe that being a parent has been filling that but again not something that works for everyone

Due in April

First one

Little girl.