Idk man i was always told growing up by my sisters mom grandma aunties cousins, u need a car before u worry bout girls on some serious s***. I just cant imagine walking wit my date and ubering n s***
But i didnt grow up in a packed city
DaBaby takes chicks on first dates to McDonald's to see if they are willing to go through the mudd
If a girl told me she can't date me because I don't own something, no matter what that is, I know this chick is a chick I'm not going to waste my time on
I'm with @op here
Both sides being direct and upfront
Pretty much
OP feels like he took an L because he made the mistake of taking a girl out on a date before establishing what it was lol
DaBaby takes chicks on first dates to McDonald's to see if they are willing to go through the mudd
If a girl told me she can't date me because I don't own something, no matter what that is, I know this chick is a chick I'm not going to waste my time on
I'm with @op here
No
If you’re over the age of 20 and a girl isn’t already pursuing you or making it clear that she’s open to driving you around
You have no business approaching a woman without some type of transportation and maybe even a place to chill at/your own living space lol
Hard pill to swallow but you’re gonna keep going out sad like OP if you don’t understand that
The “I don’t need any more friends, I’m tryna d*** you down” text has me irl tears
IM F***ING CRYING
No
If you’re over the age of 20 and a girl isn’t already pursuing you or making it clear that she’s open to driving you around
You have no business approaching a woman without some type of transportation and maybe even a place to chill at/your own living space lol
Hard pill to swallow but you’re gonna keep going out sad like OP if you don’t understand that
@op said he has a flat
I'm from EU so the public transport is probably 10x better than whatever US is doing and in here if a girl had to go 15 minutes by a bus to my flat it's literally a non-issue
But yall Americans are on some bullshit in general
Just reading the realtionship/life sxn and seeing how crazy different the culture is
I was listening to a podcast once from this USA based girl and she made a rant about what a date is and what is not a date and people in the comments were praising her for that and she said some stupid s*** as "no... just having drinks as a first date doesn't count you have to have at least 3 activities planned for your girl"
And in here we're just chillin going on walks taking everything easy. We barely even call it dates we just hang out in good company and if there are some feelings you just start hanging out more
Meanwhile muricans have to worry about cars and s*** because a girl telling them "I'm not gonna date you because you cannot drive me around" is considered normal
Hold up, we just gonna ignore that she also said she not attracted to OP.
Brand new whip will change that tho

yeah we all know the utility of having a car, but OP mentioned several times he is working towards getting one. People ITT clowning him as if that's the real reason it didn't work out when clearly the date itself must of not been great. Some of yall gotta get a grip, ain't no girl that actually f***s with you that's going to stop seeing you because you don't have a whip.
@op said he has a flat
I'm from EU so the public transport is probably 10x better than whatever US is doing and in here if a girl had to go 15 minutes by a bus to my flat it's literally a non-issue
But yall Americans are on some bullshit in general
Just reading the realtionship/life sxn and seeing how crazy different the culture is
I was listening to a podcast once from this USA based girl and she made a rant about what a date is and what is not a date and people in the comments were praising her for that and she said some stupid s*** as "no... just having drinks as a first date doesn't count you have to have at least 3 activities planned for your girl"
And in here we're just chillin going on walks taking everything easy. We barely even call it dates we just hang out in good company and if there are some feelings you just start hanging out more
Meanwhile muricans have to worry about cars and s*** because a girl telling them "I'm not gonna date you because you cannot drive me around" is considered normal
I definitely feel you but it’s like man you’re setting yourself up for disappointment if you don’t understand that’s how most girls feel if you’re older than like 21
Certain s*** is bare minimum and we’d spare our own feelings in terms of being early/mid 20’s still tryna get our s*** together if we accepted it
yeah we all know the utility of having a car, but OP mentioned several times he is working towards getting one. People ITT clowning him as if that's the real reason it didn't work out when clearly the date itself must of not been great. Some of yall gotta get a grip, ain't no girl that actually f***s with you that's going to stop seeing you because you don't have a whip.
This also lol
@op said he has a flat
I'm from EU so the public transport is probably 10x better than whatever US is doing and in here if a girl had to go 15 minutes by a bus to my flat it's literally a non-issue
But yall Americans are on some bullshit in general
Just reading the realtionship/life sxn and seeing how crazy different the culture is
I was listening to a podcast once from this USA based girl and she made a rant about what a date is and what is not a date and people in the comments were praising her for that and she said some stupid s*** as "no... just having drinks as a first date doesn't count you have to have at least 3 activities planned for your girl"
And in here we're just chillin going on walks taking everything easy. We barely even call it dates we just hang out in good company and if there are some feelings you just start hanging out more
Meanwhile muricans have to worry about cars and s*** because a girl telling them "I'm not gonna date you because you cannot drive me around" is considered normal
bro trust me it's some Internet talk, in real life there's only a very small percent of girls that will stop f***ing with you for not having a car or place
The lack of a whip doesn’t stop s*** if she really feeling you. I didn’t get my first whip til I was 20 and I never had a problem dating or getting it in before then. On the other hand having a whip was a new expense for me and I had to figure out how to budget so I couldn’t move on my own right away.
Going by what OP is saying he just took a different path. He got his crib and job situation together first so he can allot funds to get a whip. S*** with gas prices how they are right now he ain’t missing out on nothing. In the real world everybody doesn’t drive. I live in a downtown/urban area right near a major hospital. I see the doctors and nurses walking, biking or catching the train/bus to work all the time.
I definitely feel you but it’s like man you’re setting yourself up for disappointment if you don’t understand that’s how most girls feel if you’re older than like 21
Certain s*** is bare minimum and we’d spare our own feelings in terms of being early/mid 20’s still tryna get our s*** together if we accepted it
Different cultures my man
But in general what you're saying is true here also but maybe when you're 24+
It's definitely harder to meet without the car at all but fr the public transport in my city is at a level where I know more chicks without cars than one's that own a car
No one looks at it that way
Leaving with your parents after you're 24 might raise some different issues and questions but what you're describing sounds a lot like materialism issues and dates being treated as a performance rather than just two people enjoying each other's company
Fr in here if a girl tells you straight up that she won't date you because you don't own a car then even if you actually own a car you would think she's empty and not worth spending energy and time on