Shammy

4y

Bro how old are u lmao

plants

4y

But I don't think I've ever met a straight man that doesn't get p****/female attention that is also happy with life

youve met f***ing hundreds theyre just not whining about it like f***ing b****es bruh jfc

Jbreezyondeck

4y

Jesus nigga shut up

Simulacra

4y

25

Shammy

4y

Damn

Breh self esteem comes from many sources including but not limited to social support. For example an artists self esteem might be entirely based on the quality of their work and have little to do with social acceptance (assuming their assessment of quality is mostly independent of the opinions of others)

Simulacra

4y

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I already mentioned this but no human being is above the need for social validation especially in younger years. It's how our brains work

The only people disregarding it's importance are the ones who already got it and don't have to think about it any further

Jonboi

4y

People ITT being reductive af to score easy points.

Most songs, movies, art, throughout human history have been about sex. It’s sold to us as an essential part of the human experience and we’re shamed if we don’t get it. It’s perfectly normal and reasonable to be depressed if you don’t have any luck with the opposite sex. Sure, an enlightened man will see the pitfall of seeking pleasure and validation. But expecting or pretending like most people are in that mindset from the jump is an unempathetic way to act superior to someone else.

Simulacra

4y

Yes. Life as a man doesn't start until women want you

Smoofer

4y

Sure but that doesn’t mean it defines you

Simulacra

4y

It has an effect. A guy who has dated girls or at least had girls with crushes on him in his teen years will always have more positive mental health than a guy who has gotten nothing until he was 21

Simulacra

4y

I already mentioned this but no human being is above the need for social validation especially in younger years. It's how our brains work

The only people disregarding it's importance are the ones who already got it and don't have to think about it any further

worldpeace

4y

women wanted me and i accomplished a lot before i ever had sex, i wouldnt say i didnt have confidence either just lacked social skills lmao

Simulacra

4y

Women wanted you so congrats you fall in the normal category even if you didn't have s**

Simulacra

4y

Women wanted you so congrats you fall in the normal category even if you didn't have s**

Shammy

4y

This is simply not true tho

While it is rare there are people who are biologically predisposed to not giving a f*** (sociopaths)

Also you can train yourself to not care about what others think. It's called stoicism

Noir

4y

I didn't say that, in fact I said the opposite: someone who is a virgin would quite understandably overestimate the importance of having s***because they're treating it as a barometer of value and masculinity rather than a means to human connection

But for someone who knows what s***is like and has some life experience, I expect a more nuanced position. Truthfully, it's not the s***but the validation that people really want. In that sense, s***can be substituted rather effectively by any number of ego fulfilling activities as a means to happiness for many people.

I had a 6 month dry spell last year and am in a 3 month dry spell now and those were some of the most important periods of growth I've ever experienced. I'm about as happy with myself as I've ever been. S***had nothing to do with it, but the connections I was making and the progress I made were extremely important.

worldpeace

4y

@op you need a skill

Shammy

4y

Breh slow down a bit lol

P**** is mad overrated b. Like you'll eventually have s***and realize wow I was bent outta shape for no f***ing reason

An s***is like anything it's a skill basically. So if ur trash at it the experience will b trash. Basically I'm jus tryna say it's not that big of a deal

Simulacra

4y

It has an effect. A guy who has dated girls or at least had girls with crushes on him in his teen years will always have more positive mental health than a guy who has gotten nothing until he was 21

Simulacra

4y

Chances are anyone into stoicism is an adult and has already gone thru the developmental events that create their mental health. And even that is a retroactive cope to make up for what you missed out on in your youth

Normal guys who got girls in their youth don't need to adopt stoicism to cope with the fact that no one wants them

Simulacra

4y

I'm procrastinating at my video editing job rn